Crash the Chatterbox

Did you know that the average human being has up to approximately 60,000 negative thoughts per day? According to Psychology Today, 70% of our thoughts are negative. That’s a lot, right. I mean, out of all of the things that we think about, 70% are negative? It makes me sad to know that I have spent so much of my energy on negative thinking, but it also makes me feel better to know that I am not alone when it comes to having negative thoughts.

So, what next? How do we not have so many negative thoughts, when obviously, it’s a flaw that most people struggle with.

In my attempt to grow closer to Christ, I have joined a handful of support and community groups at my church. I so badly want to drown out the negative thoughts that plague my mind. Do any of these sound familiar?

  • I’m not worthy
  • I’m ugly
  • I’m fat/skinny
  • No one loves me
  • My life is meaningless
  • God doesn’t love me
  • No one understands me or my condition

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Pity party, right? Well, no more! One of the classes that I joined is based on the Christian bible study called Crash the Chatterbox by Steven Furtick. This study focuses on how to replace your own negative thoughts (the chatterbox) with the word of God. It also focuses on building a closer relationship with Jesus so you can learn how to seek him in peace and turmoil.

Related Post: Seeking Emotional Refuge in God

When I first learned about this study, I was super excited. I am so tired of hearing my own thoughts, getting caught up in my own mind. Now, I am learning to turn off the chatterbox and directing my focus completely on Jesus.

This weeks lesson we learned that:

  • The chatterbox will always try to convince you that God doesn’t love you
  • We have to turn on focus on Jesus. When we focus less on ourselves and more on Jesus, we are able to hear him clearly and feel his unconditional love.
    • Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. -Proverbs 3:5-6
  • Gods says I amOverpowering who I say I am
    • When Moses said to God, “If I come to the people of Israel and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ what shall I say to them?” God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.” And he said, “Say this to the people of Israel, ‘I AM has sent me to you.’” God also said to Moses, “Say this to the people of Israel, ‘The Lord, the God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has sent me to you.’ This is my name forever, and thus I am to be remembered throughout all generations.” (Exodus 3:13–15)
  • Gods says He willOverpowering my fear
    • So we can say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?” -Hebrews 13: 6
  • God says He hasOverpowering condemnation
    • In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. -1 Peter 5:10
  • Gods says I canOverpowering the lies of discouragement
    • Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous-how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. -Psalm 139: 14-15
  • The Chatterbox will always try to make you misunderstand the nature of who you are in relation to who God is.
  • God wants us to have confidence in his everlasting love and notin our circumstances

There is so much more in this study that I am unable to go over without turning this post into a book. If you are interested in learning how to turn off the chatterbox on your mind and focus on what God has planned for you, please click here for the complete set; study guide, book, and DVD.

Click this link to view Steven Furtick teaching one of his lessons. He’s really inspiring and you’re always left feeling inspired as well.

I’ve been doing this study for two weeks and I can already see a difference in my thought process. Please read Changing your Mindset; Becoming More Mindful for more ways you can transform your mind to become more positive.

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Please remember friends, allow God to transform your thoughts into his word. Allow Him to transform your heart and your mind to be more like him. So you can have peace knowing that Jesus is always with you. Pray so he can hear you. Read His word to hear him. Stay blessed, family. I love you all and I pray that you are having a beautiful Sunday.

“Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God said this, ‘I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” -Hebrews 13:5

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Seeking God Part 3

This morning, I’m scrolling WordPress per usual. Catching up on reading my favorite bloggers and checking out new ones. You know, blogger stuff. So anyway, I click on one of my favs bloggers Tammy’s GodInspiredArt Blog to catch up with her latest shenanigans and she has this wonderful idea (click here to visit) to open up your bible to the verse based on the current time. For example, it’s 9:36 a.m., so I would turn to any book in the Bible that has 9:36 and allow the Holy Spirit to take it from there.

This morning, I opened my bible and the Holy Spirit lead me to Mark 9:24, which reads The father instantly cried out, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

As the kids say, I was shooketh!

This exactly what I cried out to the Lord last night. I believe but I need help casting out any doubts I still have. Thank you, Lord, for speaking to me.

Then of course you know I had to keep reading. And that’s when Jesus revealed more of himself to me. Mark 9:25-29 reads

When Jesus saw that the crowd of onlookers was growing, he rebuked the evil spirit. “Listen, you spirit that makes this boy unable to hear and speak,” he said. “I command you to come out of this child and never enter him again!”

26 Then the spirit screamed and threw the boy into another violent convulsion and left him. The boy appeared to be dead. A murmur ran through the crowd as people said, “He’s dead.” 27 But Jesus took him by the hand and helped him to his feet, and he stood up.

28 Afterward, when Jesus was alone in the house with his disciples, they asked him, “Why couldn’t we cast out that evil spirit?”

29 Jesus replied, “This kind can be cast out only by prayer.”

Friends, this made me give out a genuine sigh of relief. Just the other day, I spoke about my dark passenger. Click here to read more about it. And then Jesus speaks. We are the child and our struggles are the evil spirit. In my case, Harley. When Jesus commanded the evil spirit to remove itself from the little boy, the boy’s reaction sounds painful, “threw the boy into violent convulsions…” Everyone thought he was dead. But then JESUS came along and helped him to his feet.

Going through it is seemingly impossible and very painful. Sometimes I feel my mind is going into “convulsions”, but now I know, that Jesus will be there, not just to cast out my dark passenger, but also to pick me up, dust me off, and become my new passenger for eternity. Thank you, God, for Jesus!!

**Quick Praise Break**

Oh the best part, afterward when Jesus and his disciples were alone, they asked why they weren’t able to do it cast out the evil spirit. Jesus reply was “This kind can be cast out only by prayer.” (v.29) Thank you, Jesus! Yes!

The demon that we’re facing is powerful, but his power doesn’t even compare to the power of Jesus. Our demons, our mental illness, our finances, our sickness, our heartbreak, our anxiety, our fears, WILL BE cast out forever, leaving us with eternal peace in Jesus, through prayer.

Thank you, Tammy, for allowing God to use you to speak to me.

God bless everyone who is reading this. Please be inspired to read your bible and pray. I am living proof that prayer works. And with God, I will beat this! PRAY, pray, pray! Pray so He can hear you, read your bible so you can hear Him.

“How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered. I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!” -Psalm 139:17-18

Here’s to New Beginnings

7965003_17892_2013_12_31_21_07_07_1988Good Day, All!

I hope everyone had a wonderful Sunday. My family and I celebrated the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ by attending church and making dinner. Celebrating today is important to us for a number of reasons. Not only do we love (and very grateful) that our Lord died for us and rose from his grave, but also, today represents a new beginning and hope. All of my wrongdoings are in the past and now it is time to face the future with a positive perspective. If God can forgive me, if Jesus can die for me, then I must take the gift of salvation and use it to spread love and hope.

During this season in my life, I have learned that mental illness is a lifelong battle. There are a number of resources available to help people with mental illness, but it all boils down to the individual person and the mental illness that they are struggling with. Mental illness is misunderstood and we (the mentally ill) have to understand that our condition is forever changing and there are NO “right answers”, just answers that work for us and our loved ones.

Sometimes I feel discouraged when my loved ones don’t seem to understand or when they prefer to pour their endless judgments or harsh suggestions into my ear, but then I remember, this is my battle, no one else’s. And I have to do what is best for me so I can do what is best for my family. So today marks a new day of me taking advantage of this new beginning of hope. I’ll be honest. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve almost given a few times, but then I know I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I did that. That being said, I would like to continue to offer hope the best way I know…my blog.

Instead of giving up, I would like to share with you tips that I have adopted that helped me through my recent dark moment of disparity. If you are going through it, I pray this list helps you as well.

  1. Take a step back to concentrate on your mental health
  2. If you were triggered by someone, put some distance between you and the person that triggered you (if possible).
  3. Think before you say anything! You don’t want to regret something you’ve said just because you’re emotional
  4. Forgive the person that triggered you. More than likely they don’t know they did
  5. Forgive yourself for your set back
  6. Don’t allow your setback to become permanent.
  7. It’s ok to take one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, one second at a time
  8. Keep at it, don’t give up
  9. Do not make permanent decisions on temporary feelings
  10. Be proud of yourself for getting through it
  11. Find support, i.e. online support group, church, friends, family, Facebook support groups

Thank you guys so much for reading my thoughts. Remember, today is a new beginning. If you are reading this, that means God has a plan for your life. More than you ever thought could happen. Stay faithful and stay blessed. I love each and every one of you. God bless you all.

God proved His love on the Cross. When Christ hung, and bled, and died, it was God saying to the world, ‘I love you.’ -Billy Graham

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Seeking God Part 2

Good Day Fellow Bloggers,

I hope each of you had a wonderful weekend. My weekend went well. I was able to get shopping done for an upcoming family vacation. And…I didn’t get angry with my kids, which is a huge improvement. Anger has been a difficult hurdle to cross, but with Gods love, I am able to push forward and overcome it. In the near future, I want to share with you guys techniques that I have learned to control my anger. 

Anyway, today I wanted to speak more about a blog post that I started talking about my journey to seeking God, per his request. To catch up, please read Seeking God to get the full story of why I started this particular journey. I shared that my purpose in Christ, right now, is to know him intimately. Through prayer and elder guidance, it is clear that my mission is to simply, get to know him. The more to I study my bible, the more his answers become so clear.

It’s funny because I’ve been a Christian for 21 years, but this is the first time since being saved that I have actively sought out having a relationship with God. It now seems that the blinders have been taken off. So as a blogger, I feel it would be irresponsible of me not to document this season of my life. I mean, it’s the reason why I started blogging in the first place. I  love each and every one of you, but blogging started because of my Father and it’s running on His Spirit, alone. If I trusted blogging to myself, I probably wouldn’t get it done. Since I know this is what I’m called to do, then I shall obey. Plus, I would be a terrible person if I didn’t admit that I absolutely love it and it shows how gracious God is. He chose blogging to be my outlet, something I never thought I would become. I’m basketing in the glory of knowing I am on the right track to becoming his tapestry. 

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I’m rambling, so let’s get to the point.

I’m surprised you guys deal with it. Hehe 🙂 Today, I want to talk about what I have recently learned on my journey to seek God. (I said that already, oh well, too late to delete it.) Sometimes, I feel so burdened by my responsibility, followed by guilt that I am unable to “fulfill” my duties as a wife and a mother. There are days where I am so mentally drained, I am unable to function. And other days, I am so physically drained, I am unable to function. And there are those days that I am so emotionally drained…well, you get the drift. I have wasted a lot of time trying to get through this by myself. My husband will yell at me to “put the laundry basket down, I got it!” or “save your energy and get some rest.” There is so much that needs to be done, and pridefully, I love providing for my family. I feel that I’ve done my due diligence when I cook dinner or fold laundry. You know, mom stuff. Then, it becomes too much and my body will begin craving a comfortable sitting or a heating pad.

On those days that we are soooo mentally, physically, and emotionally drained, we are to look to God because He will ease all of our burdens. God knows our limitations and breaking points. When we feel alone and burdened by our daily responsibilities, we should pour out our hearts to him and trust him to provide relief.

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. (Phil. 4:19)

There is no limit to his power and what he can provide. The Lord will never fail us, nor forsake us. It may sound cliche and I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times before, God will never give you anything you are unable to handle. Plus, if you are unable to handle it, he will handle it for you. 

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2 Cor. 12:9)

Whatever storm you are going through, just know it is supposed to make you grow. It is supposed to make you stronger. Your storms are not meant to break you, but to build you. Don’t allow the enemy to control you, trick you into thinking you are going through alone. You are not alone!

And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.” (Mt. 21:22)

Learning this during my journey has helped me immensely. I finally don’t feel like I’m drowning anymore. You can read all about that here Living with Depression. I pray that you all have a wonderful rest of your Sunday (or a beautiful start to your Monday for some of my friends in a different country). 

Lord, I pray for whoever is reading this, that you give them strength to continue their fight, but find peace in knowing that you are there to carry the burdens. Lord, bless them and comfort them. Allow them to feel your presence. Grant them comfort in their mind and in their hearts. Stay Blessed!

Lord, help me remember that no matter what happens, nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I cannot handle. -Unknown

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A Wing and A Prayer

Hey fellow bloggers,

Yesterday’s post was pretty dark and I apologize for that. I try not to allow myself to “go there”, so I would like to switch gears. I found a poem on FamilyFriendsPoems.com. This poem was written for the author’s sister who struggles with cancer. Please enjoy her words as I have and I pray it gives you courage, if that is what you seek, like myself.

Stay strong, warriors ❤️

A Wing and A Prayer by Michelle Butler

Under the wing of an angel, we feel protected

Through prayers to God, we feel connected

 

Peace is said to be offered on the wings of a dove

Prayers can bring peace along with hope, faith, and love

 

Wings of a jet plane provide steady flight

I pray you remain steady and strong through this fight

 

Butterflies have wings to fly playfully free

And free from this monster is what I pray you’ll soon be

 

Birds spread their wings as they may leave their nest

We’re spreading our prayers that you’ll always be Blessed

 

Go fight and win this battle you didn’t start

On the wings of an angel and prayers from my heart

Faith

One would think that in the past 24 hours, every negative entity that lurks around in our universe wants to destroy every ounce of goodness I have left. Everything that could go wrong has gone wrong. If I allow it, it has the potential to discourage me from my walk with God and make me completely give up on my life altogether.

There are a few reasons why I won’t and can’t give up:

  1. Hannah
  2. Rj
  3. Christian
  4. Mark 9:23 says, “-anything is possible if a person believes.”
  5. Philippians 4:13 says “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
  6. Matthew 17:20 says “‘You don’t have enough faith,’ Jesus told them. ‘I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.'”

I am so tired of cowering in the corner, crying like an infant when bad things happen. It’s not how I was raised and I will not allow this to become a permanent part of me. If I want to survive, if I want to push past these mental and physical ailments that have presented themselves to me, I have to be brave – I have to stand tall against the enemy who is trying his best to kill me.

I will do as God instructed in Ephesians 6:13-18. I will put on every piece of Gods armor so I that I will be able to resist the enemy. He tells us to stand our ground, put on the belt of truth, the body armor of Gods righteousness, for shoes we put on the peace that comes from the Good News, hold up the shield of faith, put on the helmet of salvation, and take up the sword of the Spirit which is the world of God. 

If I allow the enemy to get to me, thoughts of suicide cloud my mind every minute of every day. I proclaim, right now, that he will no longer be allowed to enter my mind. He will no longer be allowed to control how I feel or what I do.

Today’s devotional stated:

Jesus promises that anyone who believes in who he is – anyone who entrusts himself to the person of Jesus – will never encounter an impossibility. -Jennifer Kennedy Dean

I trust that everything that has happened in the past 24 hours is apart of his plan. And if it’s not apart of his plan, I believe that he will deliver us from Satans grasp and bless us beyond our dreams. I also believe that he will not, nor ever, abandon us in our time of need.

That being said, I hope everyone had a wonderful day. And if you didn’t, then you always have tomorrow to start over. God bless each and every one of you. If you are going through a hard time, just remember, God will never abandon you. 

Faith does not grasp a doctrine, but a heart. The trust which Christ requires is the bond that unites souls with Him; and the very life of it is entire committal of myself to Him in all my relations and for all my needs, and absolute utter confidence in Him as all-sufficient for everything that I can require. -Alexander MacLaren

 

 

How I Got Rid of Toxic People In My Life

hb1tf1aAbout ten years ago, I allowed a close family member to break my heart. So, much so, I was bedridden with grief for about two days. It was hard for me to overcome because I couldn’t wrap my head around why she would betray me. I didn’t do anything to her to deserve it. She saw an opportunity to take advantage of my kindness and took off with it like she was Usain Bolt. It left me feeling worthless because, at the time, I truly felt like she genuinely wanted to build a relationship with me. It was all I was praying for; understanding and love from someone I grew up with.

42-23039081Needless to say, that wasn’t the case. Fast forward to 2017, this same person needed my help again. I should have said no. She is a toxic person. You couldn’t deny the energy in the room turning sour once she entered it. It was a stench that you couldn’t ignore. She was someone that couldn’t be trusted, but I thought that was in the past. So I helped. Sometimes, I ask myself why did I bother. She would only turn around and do the exact same thing she did years prior. This time, it hit me even harder. I was already going through and hard time and bam! Here she was with her shenanigans.

At the beginning of this post, I said I allowed her to break my heart. I say I allowed it because I feel that people will only do to you what YOU allow them to do. I knew how she was (both times), but I thought that she had grown into a better person. I was wrong. She played me like a cheap violin. While she was basking in the glory of my pain, I was letting out the real pain of betrayal and heartache.

I had to figure out, what does God say about toxic people? How do I NOT allow them to affect me so much? What do I do about them? How do I get “over it”? I prayed every day to become the kind of person to brush things off as easily as she brushed me off, but I had to learn to get through it and here is how.

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I came across a book that would answer most of my questions. It’s called How God Sees Your Struggles by Lynn R. Davis. In the first chapter, she makes explains how God wants us to handle toxic people and their foolishness. Below are the lessons that I learned to get rid of her and other toxic people in my life and here is how you can too:

  • Stop allowing yourself to get worked up about what other people think, say, or believe about you.

“There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict; walk away. The battle they are fighting isn’t with you. It is with themselves.”                -Anonymous

  • You are a beautiful creation of God. The only opinion that matters is His and His alone. God wants you to know that you were not created to be abused, used, mistreated, or mocked.

“What is the price of two sparrows-one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid ; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows?” -Matthew 10:29-31

  • You will never have peace if you do not overcome your need to please people and expect to maintain your health, peace, and sanity.
  • Do not allow yourself to get sucked in by other peoples foolishness.
  • Do not allow them to pollute your faith.

“Unfriendly people care only about themselves; they lash out at common sense. Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions.” -Proverbs 18:1-2

  • Toxic people will try to make you stoop down to their level. Do not allow them to do this. It will only cause more stress and heartache for you in the end. Although it’s hard, walk away. Only speak in love, let it go, walk away, and pray for them. They are miserable, not you. Give it all to God.
  • Do not waste your time and tears on toxic people. If you do, you will never have peace. Only God can change their hearts.

“When a wise man has controversy with a foolish man, the foolish man either rages or laughs, and there is no rest.” -Proverbs 29:9.

  • Stay encouraged for doing the right thing. As long as your heart is right with God, so will your actions. Don’t worry yourself about how to get back at the people that attack you. God will deal with them as He sees fit.

“The way of the Lord is a stronghold to those with integrity, but it destroys the wicked.” -Proverbs 10:29

  • Toxic people bring destruction on themselves. Spend time in prayer and meditation so you don’t allow yourself to get sucked up in their chaos. Once you’re sucked in, it’s hard to get out. You will then find yourself reaping the benefits of their turmoil.

After following the do’s and don’ts of dealing with toxic people, I can say that I have peace. I love my close family member, as I should, but that is as far as our relationship goes. I pray that she is able to let go whatever is causing her so much misery, but until then, I can’t deal with her and now that I know my worth, I refuse to. I used to feel bad about it, but now I don’t. God says that I have to love her and pray for her. He doesn’t say anything about me taking abuse from her or anyone else. Sometimes I have to ask God to give me the desire to pray for her. That way, I can heal from her destruction and move on.

I hope you are able to let go of the toxic people in your life. Trust me, you will be better off. If you are interested in reading her book, you can find it on Amazon by clicking HERE. You can read it for free by downloading the 30-Day free trial Kindle Unlimited by clicking HERE. It’s worth it and honestly, this is how I was able to read it. Thank you for reading my thoughts. God bless you all.  

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Trust The Process: What Choosing Life Looks Like

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Live for Today. Choose life. The mantra that I repeat to myself everyday, every hour, and sometimes every second. Chronic illness will try to trick you into thinking that your life is over after diagnosis. We aren’t the same people that we once were. We aren’t able to do the same things that we once did. It can be devastating, if you let it.

Two simple words with so much meaning. Choose Life. I feel as though God has given me sign after sign to stand still. I’m so used to moving and grooving. I was on a fast track to finally becoming financially stable. I had just finished school and after 10 long years, received a college degree. I was working at my dream job as a registered medical assistant at a prestigious hospital, and I loved the day-to-day interactions that I had with my patients. I really felt like I was making a difference. But then, I became ill. After going through the “woe is me”, “my life sucks” phase, I began to notice that God is trying to tell me to be still during this storm.

“Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weakness, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”  (NLT) (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Now when I think about my battle with Lupus and Fibromyalgia , my perspective has completely changed. After reading His word, I was reminded that God will break you to position you, to put you in the right place, and to promote you. Lucky for us, He is a just God and a loving God, so when he breaks you, it will not hurt you or destroy you because He is also a graceful God. Trust the process that God has set before you. We may not always know why things are happening to us, but honestly, it’s not for us to know. When God wants it revealed, it will be revealed. Until then, trust the process.

Trusting His process is hard, at least it was for me. But then, after nine long days of going through a lupus flare I noticed something different about my husband. It’s not that he did anything different, it’s just God changed my perspective. When I’m in pain, everything that he does is annoying. Everything he says I take offensive and sometimes everything he does is wrong. Well, at least that’s how I felt when my mind is so engulfed in my own pain, that I am unable to see how blessed I really am. Until today. Today, my husband woke up, got our three children feed, clothed and ready for school and then went to school himself. Immediately afterwards, grabbed lunch for me, then went to his first day at his new job, only to come home, cook dinner, feed the kids, entertain them!, put them to bed, and still have the energy to give me a deep-muscle massage to relieve my body ache.

I immediately asked my husband to forgive me. He has been a ROCK throughout this entire process and I’ve taken him for granted. He effortlessly makes me laugh and smile everyday so I wont think about the pain. He tries so hard to make me happy, even when I’m working his last nerves. And most importantly, he is an amazing father to our kids; helping them understand and cope with what mommy is going through. Thank you Jesus for sending me this man! He is proof that You have not forsaken me, nor forgotten about me. You’ve sent the perfect person to stand with me and push me to beat this.

God has placed the tools that I need in my life to get through what I used to call a tragedy. I would be lying if I said wonderful things haven’t blossomed during my illness; I’ve grown closer to my husband, kids, and family members. I’m able to be more attentive to my families needs and wants. I’ve even been able to build a stronger relationship with Jesus Christ.

Remember, trust the process. Trust Him. Thank you to EVERYONE who has prayed for me, helped me, blessed me, and has been supportive of me. I love you more than I can express.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

Transferable Energy

Everyone has an energy field that surrounds them all of the time. You. Me. Everyone. Some people have positive energy, and some people have negative energy. There are many things that can determine whether what kind of energy a person has. red_energy_gym

Up until recently, I’ve never put that much thought into what kind of energy I had. I used to think of myself as someone who always had great energy. And typically, I did, but I never took into account of the people I was hanging out with, the kind of music I was listening to, and even the things that I ate, ALL effected my energy. I would find myself being in terrible moods. Then I thought, everyone in a bad a mood sometimes. But then it started to take over my life. My bad moods began to affect my relationships with my family and friends.

During this time, I was in a very toxic relationship. He was always angry, always in a bad mood. He thought the world was against him. He was incapable of seeing past his own hurt and rage. Every time we spoke on the phone or hung around each other, my chest would always get so heavy and worry would cloud my mind and my judgement. Thus, affecting my other relationships.

After our relationship was over, it was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. Even though my heartbroken, I was relieved. I noticed immediately that my mood and that negative energy that clung onto to me, was no longer there. The clouds opened up, and the sun began to shine again. Shortly after, I began researching transferable energy.

The thing about negative energy is that it follows you. Negative energy is like the clingy boyfriend that’s not getting the hint that you’re not interested anymore. And, negative energy loves negative energy. Negative energy can consume you, drain you from all of the things you find beautiful in life; watching your kids play, watching the sun rise, loving your family to the fullest.

After my health began to decline, my energy definitely turned dark. I was stuck in my bed with a puke bucket. I couldn’t do anything for myself without help from my husband. Honestly, I felt like a child. And being the independent woman that I’ve been my entire life, I allowed thoughts of self loathing and disappointment to clutter my mind because I had to depend on my husband to wipe my ass. The depression fed my negative energy and vice versa. So when I had moments to spend with my kids, I felt so sorry for myself, I couldn’t enjoy it. And my negative energy was so strong that it began to make them feel bad. I realized what I was doing when one day, everyone woke up on a bad mood. That is when I saw that everyone was picking up on my moods. Needless to say, I felt like crap. I only want my family to be happy and it crushed me to see that I was doing this to them.

This is what has inspired Harotian Essentials. I dove into finding out as much as a I can about what I can do to turn my negative energy into positive energy.

Here are a few tips that I have learned along the way:

  • Don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the solution. – Most of us are worry bugs. And it be honest, it’s easier to worry about a problem versus climbing the mountain to solve it. But worrying does nothing but bring stress and anxiety. Focus on a plan to solve your problem. It’ll make you feel better, plus, you’ll feel productive in the process. positive-energy-flow-sage-goddess-facebook-blog-optimal
  • Keep it light – negative people love to have conversations about serious topics. Although discussing serious topics is a must in today’s society, try to throw a joke or a funny story into the mix.
  • Remove negative people or objects – If you are able, remove negative people and/or objects from your life. If you have a piece of jewelry that reminds you of a bad breakup, or a blanket that reminds you of a bad time in your life, get rid of it. Replace it with something that makes you feel great. If you are unable to remove negative people, set limitations to your relationship. If thehow-to-live-life-to-the-fullest-2y begin to talk about something negative, immediately change the subject. Either they’ll change the subject with you, or they’ll stop talking to you about it. Either way, you win.
  • Do what makes you happy! – You and you alone are the only person that can chose how you feel. Take care of yourself and your energy. Because just like negative energy, positive energy is clingy and very contagious. The more people with positive energy, the better our world will be.

As always…Peace, Love, and Happiness from my home to yours!

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22

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