Everyone has an energy field that surrounds them all of the time. You. Me. Everyone. Some people have positive energy, and some people have negative energy. There are many things that can determine whether what kind of energy a person has.
Up until recently, I’ve never put that much thought into what kind of energy I had. I used to think of myself as someone who always had great energy. And typically, I did, but I never took into account of the people I was hanging out with, the kind of music I was listening to, and even the things that I ate, ALL effected my energy. I would find myself being in terrible moods. Then I thought, everyone in a bad a mood sometimes. But then it started to take over my life. My bad moods began to affect my relationships with my family and friends.
During this time, I was in a very toxic relationship. He was always angry, always in a bad mood. He thought the world was against him. He was incapable of seeing past his own hurt and rage. Every time we spoke on the phone or hung around each other, my chest would always get so heavy and worry would cloud my mind and my judgement. Thus, affecting my other relationships.
After our relationship was over, it was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. Even though my heartbroken, I was relieved. I noticed immediately that my mood and that negative energy that clung onto to me, was no longer there. The clouds opened up, and the sun began to shine again. Shortly after, I began researching transferable energy.
The thing about negative energy is that it follows you. Negative energy is like the clingy boyfriend that’s not getting the hint that you’re not interested anymore. And, negative energy loves negative energy. Negative energy can consume you, drain you from all of the things you find beautiful in life; watching your kids play, watching the sun rise, loving your family to the fullest.
After my health began to decline, my energy definitely turned dark. I was stuck in my bed with a puke bucket. I couldn’t do anything for myself without help from my husband. Honestly, I felt like a child. And being the independent woman that I’ve been my entire life, I allowed thoughts of self loathing and disappointment to clutter my mind because I had to depend on my husband to wipe my ass. The depression fed my negative energy and vice versa. So when I had moments to spend with my kids, I felt so sorry for myself, I couldn’t enjoy it. And my negative energy was so strong that it began to make them feel bad. I realized what I was doing when one day, everyone woke up on a bad mood. That is when I saw that everyone was picking up on my moods. Needless to say, I felt like crap. I only want my family to be happy and it crushed me to see that I was doing this to them.
This is what has inspired Harotian Essentials. I dove into finding out as much as a I can about what I can do to turn my negative energy into positive energy.
Here are a few tips that I have learned along the way:
- Don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the solution. – Most of us are worry bugs. And it be honest, it’s easier to worry about a problem versus climbing the mountain to solve it. But worrying does nothing but bring stress and anxiety. Focus on a plan to solve your problem. It’ll make you feel better, plus, you’ll feel productive in the process.
- Keep it light – negative people love to have conversations about serious topics. Although discussing serious topics is a must in today’s society, try to throw a joke or a funny story into the mix.
- Remove negative people or objects – If you are able, remove negative people and/or objects from your life. If you have a piece of jewelry that reminds you of a bad breakup, or a blanket that reminds you of a bad time in your life, get rid of it. Replace it with something that makes you feel great. If you are unable to remove negative people, set limitations to your relationship. If they begin to talk about something negative, immediately change the subject. Either they’ll change the subject with you, or they’ll stop talking to you about it. Either way, you win.
- Do what makes you happy! – You and you alone are the only person that can chose how you feel. Take care of yourself and your energy. Because just like negative energy, positive energy is clingy and very contagious. The more people with positive energy, the better our world will be.
As always…Peace, Love, and Happiness from my home to yours!
A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22